How are you?
A true friend is one who asks how are you—and then waits for your reply. Unfortunately, this much used question has become a “standard greeting” we all use, but only occasionally is it asked genuinely (for the purpose of receiving an actual response).
Should we be concerned if the following scenarios apply to us?
- When you begin a conversation with someone, do you proceed by first indicating that you’re pressed for time? (In an effort to give notice that the conversation is going to be brief). If so, is it reasonable for the other party to assume that you’re implying your time is more important than theirs?
- Have you ever asked a person for his or her advice–and upon getting the information you wanted, abruptly ended the conversation? In other conversations, and after you’ve gotten your point across–do you then create (or grasp for) an opportunity to end that conversation?
- Do you believe all can contribute something of value, in any circumstance, and are equally important in God’s eyes? (Not just people who are held in high esteem)
- Have you made statements such as– “I just asked for the time, I don’t need to know how the watch works” or perhaps “Don’t say blah blah blah–when you can say blah.” ?
- Do you welcome the opportunity to learn from others, and especially–your elders?
Likewise, ye younger, submit yourselves unto the elder. Yea, all of you be subject one to another, and be clothed with humility: for God resisteth the proud, and giveth grace to the humble. 1 Peter 5:5
1 Corinthians 7: 7; 7 For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.
EVEN THE SPARROW IS WORTHY TO GOD
Matthew 10: 29; 29 Are not two sparrows sold for a cent? And yet not one of them will fall to the ground apart from your Father.
For all those things hath mine hand made, and all those things have been, saith the LORD: but to this man will I look, even to him that is poor and of a contrite spirit, and trembleth at my word. Isaiah 66:2
GOD TEACHES US NOT TO HAVE RESPECT OF PERSONS
1 Peter 1: 17; 17And if ye call on the Father, who without respect of persons judgeth according to every man’s work, pass the time of your sojourning here in fear:
Proverbs 24: 23; 23These things also belong to the wise. It is not good to have respect of persons in judgment
Romans 2: 11; 11For there is no respect of persons with God.
DO YOU WANT THE BEST SEAT IN THE HOUSE?
Luke 14: 10; 10 But when thou art bidden, go and sit down in the lowest room; that when he that bade thee cometh, he may say unto thee, Friend, go up higher: then shalt thou have worship in the presence of them that sit at meat with thee.
THOSE WHO DESIRE TO BE FIRST WILL BE LAST
Mark 9: 35; 35 And he (Jesus) sat down, and called the twelve, and saith unto them, If any man desire to be first, the same shall be last of all, and servant of all.
Luke 13: 30; 30And, behold, there are last which shall be first, and there are first which shall be last.
Zephaniah 2: 10; 10 This shall they have for their pride, because they have reproached and magnified themselves against the people of the LORD of hosts.
Obadiah 1: 3; 3 The pride of thine heart hath deceived thee, thou that dwellest in the clefts of the rock, whose habitation is high; that saith in his heart, Who shall bring me down to the ground?
Proverbs 8: 13; 13 The fear of the LORD is to hate evil: pride, and arrogancy, and the evil way, and the froward mouth, do I hate.
- “Proudness is a feeling of deep pride, pleasure and satisfaction in one’s own or someone else’s achievements, qualities skills, potentials or possessions. Are you proud at all? If yes, then you’ve got to get rid of it (pride) and afterwards saturate yourself with humility. In case you don’t know—God opposes the proud. But guess what He gives more grace to?–the humble.” (James 4: 6)–Emeasoba George. ¹
GOD TELLS US TO SEEK COUNSEL
Proverbs 15: 22; 22 Without counsel purposes are disappointed: but in the multitude of counsellors they are established.
- “He that won’t be counseled can’t be helped.”–Benjamin Franklin.
WE MUST HAVE PATIENCE TOWARDS ONE ANOTHER
Romans 15: 5; 5Now the God of patience and consolation grant you to be likeminded one toward another according to Christ Jesus:
Romans 12: 16; 16Be of the same mind one toward another. Mind not high things, but condescend to men of low estate. Be not wise in your own conceits.
1 Peter 3: 8; 8 Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous:
The next time you ask someone–How Are You? Wait for their answer paying close attention to their response–and possible disbelief, that you are truly concerned about them!
- “The way you see people is the way you treat them.”–Zig Ziglar
- “A friend is one who knows you and loves you just the same.”–Elbert Hubbard
- “Tell me and I forget. Teach me and I remember. Involve me and I learn.”–Benjamin Franklin
- “A true friend never gets in your way unless you happen to be going down.”–Arnold H. Glasow
- “I value the friend who for me finds time on his calendar, but I cherish the friend who for me does not consult his calendar.”–Robert Brault
- “It takes a long time to grow an old friend.”–John Leonard
- “Life’s Tragedy is that we get old to soon and wise too late.”–Benjamin Franklin
- “The only way to have a friend is to be one.”–Ralph Waldo Emerson
- “Life is a long lesson in humility.”–James M. Barrie
- “When befriended, remember it; when you befriend, forget it.”–Benjamin Franklin
- “When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, I used everything you gave me.”–Erma Bombeck
- “Common looking people are the best in the world: that is the reason the Lord makes so many of them.”–Abraham Lincoln
Christians soon realize when someone needs help, (or someone to talk to) that need generally occurs at the most inconvenient time of the helper.
“When you get discouraged, go find someone who needs your encouragement and encourage them. If you want encouragement, go sow some! I have never heard anyone say that they were encouraged too much.”–Dr. David Jeremiah. ¹
“When the gospel is really embraced, it makes men kind relatives and faithful friends; it teaches them to bear the burdens, and to bear with the infirmities of those with whom they are connected, to consider their peace and happiness more than their own.”–Matthew Henry; 1662-1714. Related post: Comforting One Another
- Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others. Philippians 2:3-4
- Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another; Romans 12:10
- Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep. Romans 12:15
- For though I be free from all men, yet have I made myself servant unto all, that I might gain the more. 1 Corinthians 9:19
- Even as I please all men in all things, not seeking mine own profit, but the profit of many, that they may be saved. 1 Corinthians 10:33
This is my commandment, That ye love one another, as I have loved you. John 15:12